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The Art of Saying No

You know how there are certain things kids say that will almost certainly draw a negative response from a parent? Things like “Everybody else is allowed to _____,” or “Nothing good ever happens in my life,” or “Drew’s parents don’t make him _____.”  … Continue reading

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The Awesome Power of Intermittent Reinforcement

Many years ago, when cell phones with video-recording capability were a recent invention, the mother of an 11-year-old client of mine showed up in my office in a tizzy. She wanted to show me what had happened on the way … Continue reading

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The Biggest Parenting Question

Sometimes I write about the “trees” of parenting, like homework (The Homework Tree) and messy bedrooms (The Real Reason Bedrooms Have Doors). Other times I write about the “forests” such as autonomy (What If Your Parents Controlled Your Life), values … Continue reading

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Safety, Relationship, Everything Else

The vast majority of parents that I meet in my clinical practice are lovely people. They care deeply for their children, and they are trying hard to parent them well. They are seeking help, not because they are bad parents, … Continue reading

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