Tag Archives: responsibility

No Free Passes

Many of the kids I see in therapy are the kinds of kids adults often refer to as “good kids.” They work hard in school, they are well-liked by peers and adults, they are active in arts or athletics or community … Continue reading

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Bullying Is a Community Problem

I have written about bullying before (See Don’t Go Back to Middle School, Zero Tolerance, and The Importance of Ickiness). Not surprisingly, it is a topic I hear about often from my child and adolescent clients and their parents. When I … Continue reading

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Ready or Not?

I am frequently asked by parents “At what age is a child ready to ____________?” The blank may be “stay home alone” or “use the stove unsupervised” or “go to the mall with friends.” During one such conversation recently, a child client piped up … Continue reading

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The Real Reason Bedrooms Have Doors

My last post (Swooping) was about a strategy to help family members work together to keep the  house tidy. I stated in that post that “swooping” should only be used in common areas of the house such as mudrooms, kitchens, … Continue reading

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Swooping

Parents love to tell me how messy their children are. Occasionally, they bring in photos of their children’s rooms or playrooms for fear I won’t believe their descriptions of floors covered with dirty clothes and wet towels, desks covered with … Continue reading

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The Homework Tree

In therapy, families work on the forests and the trees. I’ve written a lot recently about the forests: acceptance and identity, to name a couple. Today I am going to write about a tree: homework. This tree can be found … Continue reading

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Values. There, I Said It.

After watching hours of political rhetoric from the Republican and Democratic conventions, with frequent comments about “values” peppered throughout, I hate to even say the word. The concept of values can be a tricky one for therapists. After all, it is … Continue reading

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