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De-Escalating Conflict with Kids

Imagine the following interaction that took place in my office earlier this week between 17-year-old Shondi, her mother. and me. Mom (angrily): Tell Dr. Sayers what you and your friends did. Shondi: [says nothing, sinks lower into the sofa, shrugs … Continue reading

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The Last Word on the Last Word

I like to have the Last Word. Who doesn’t, right? In many of my roles, I usually get to have the Last Word: as a professor in a graduate program, as an owner of a private practice, and certainly as … Continue reading

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The Parent-Teacher-Student Partnership

You may have noticed that I have not posted anything new in several weeks. There are two reasons for this. First, I have been deeply immersed in creative writing over the summer due to the slower pace, visits to places … Continue reading

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Sticks and Stones

Kids listen to what their parents say. Really, they do. They don’t always acknowledge that they are listening. They certainly don’t always agree with what they hear. And of course, they are not always compliant. But trust me; they listen. … Continue reading

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Redefining Winning

Wherever there is a winner, there isĀ at least one loser, and kids do not like to lose. Unfortunately for family dynamics, parents don’t really enjoy losing either. Because of this, parent-child disagreements sometimes get out of hand. What starts out … Continue reading

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Sorry Really May Be the Hardest Word

This post was inspired by three families that I have been seeing in therapy recently. In each of the families, there are significant ruptures in the parent-child relationships. In one family, a prepubescent child self-identifies as transgender, and the mother … Continue reading

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Holding Them Down vs. Helping Them Up

Nothing seems to stress the parents of my therapy clients more than their children’s poor academic performance. Sometimes, “poor academic performance” means D’s and F’s; sometimes it means mostly A’s and a few B’s. Virtually always, it is inextricably linked … Continue reading

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