Tag Archives: listening

De-Escalating Conflict with Kids

Imagine the following interaction that took place in my office earlier this week between 17-year-old Shondi, her mother. and me. Mom (angrily): Tell Dr. Sayers what you and your friends did. Shondi: [says nothing, sinks lower into the sofa, shrugs … Continue reading

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Brokenhearted Teens

Broken hearts are as much a part of adolescence as pimples and piles of homework. As my wise mother (who, by the way, married her high school sweetheart and recently celebrated 60 years of wedded bliss!) is want to say, You … Continue reading

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In the Rare Event that a Preschooler Does Not Listen…

About a year ago, I published a post entitled Preschoolers Playing the Odds about the tendency for parents of young children to issue far too many unimportant commands and to follow through on a very small number of them. This parenting … Continue reading

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Every Teen Needs a Mrs. Higginbotham

I don’t have a very exciting or intriguing story for you today. The young person I will describe could be just about any young person. The problem that brought her to therapy is not very interesting or unusual. The point … Continue reading

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Lonely Lunches and Listening Parents

This is the time of year around southeastern Pennsylvania when middle and high school students find out their schedules for the impending school year. These schedules are greeted with an enormous amount of trepidation by many students who wonder “Who did … Continue reading

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Preschoolers Playing the Odds

Today’s quote is not from one particular child client. It is a composite from the many preschoolers I have seen over the years who have been bored and restless in my office while I talk to their parents: Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah! Recently, … Continue reading

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Best Years? Seriously?

Many a parent has sat in my office and told a sad or anxious or stressed out child that “these years”, whether they be elementary school, high school, or college, are the “best years of life.” (I’m pretty sure I … Continue reading

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