Tag Archives: limits

Redefining Winning

Wherever there is a winner, there is at least one loser, and kids do not like to lose. Unfortunately for family dynamics, parents don’t really enjoy losing either. Because of this, parent-child disagreements sometimes get out of hand. What starts out … Continue reading

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The Art of Saying No

You know how there are certain things kids say that will almost certainly draw a negative response from a parent? Things like “Everybody else is allowed to _____,” or “Nothing good ever happens in my life,” or “Drew’s parents don’t make him _____.”  … Continue reading

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The Awesome Power of Intermittent Reinforcement

Many years ago, when cell phones with video-recording capability were a recent invention, the mother of an 11-year-old client of mine showed up in my office in a tizzy. She wanted to show me what had happened on the way … Continue reading

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Wonder Why I Feel Like Re-posting This Today, the 16th Day of Summer Break?

This article was originally posted on 6/23/12. For some inexplicable reason, I feel the need to re-post it today. Curious…. Those %$#@ Screens! I am not exaggerating when I say that I spend at least four hours a week talking … Continue reading

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Ready or Not?

I am frequently asked by parents “At what age is a child ready to ____________?” The blank may be “stay home alone” or “use the stove unsupervised” or “go to the mall with friends.” During one such conversation recently, a child client piped up … Continue reading

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Swooping

Parents love to tell me how messy their children are. Occasionally, they bring in photos of their children’s rooms or playrooms for fear I won’t believe their descriptions of floors covered with dirty clothes and wet towels, desks covered with … Continue reading

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Whacked

This one is hot off the press, and if you read this blog long enough, you will undoubtedly learn many more of the creative ways in which child clients inform me of this tightly held belief: My parents are whacked. Dharma, … Continue reading

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